Raising boys especially only boys, can be a total crazy job for a mum. Their boy brains will startle you make your heart skip a beat or two oftentimes. Underneath I share few points that are commonly not understood about boys but a mom knows.
1. Boys cry:
Boys need to be tough. But they are just human. Little boys do cry and its completely okay to cry over a broken beloved toy or a physical hurt or even an emotional dilemma. It takes a strong person to show his feelings. They need a shoulder and heartfelt sympathy specially from their moms instead of telling them boys don’t cry its better telling them don’t make someone else cry.
2. They are energetic:
Certainly a hell lot more than you. Probably will beat the energy of a Tasmanian devil too. It takes a lot to tire them out. Make them run and take laps around the house and may be they ll sit down for a few minutes. Not more than that. Expect them anywhere other than being on the floor like normal human. They are better off climbing kitchen counters or hanging from the window grill. Monkeying around they take it literally.
3. They can like “girl toys”:
No, little kids don’t know what boy or girl toys or colors are. They might fall in love with a pink wand at the toys store or they may enjoy a toy kitchen set so much it ll keep them busy for various minutes. Its okay totally. Its us grown ups that differentiate that cars are for boys and dolls for girls. So let their little imaginations fly. They ll play ball once they r grown for sure.
4. Bathroom smells like pee:
No matter how regularly you wash the bathroom floor it will smell like pee. That is apparently because no matter how careful the boys stay(chances of which are low) some pee will land on the floor. Tell your boys to wash or wipe the floor everytime they get the floor peed to keep odour at bay as much as possible.
5. Jokes may smell bad too:
But don’t worry not all boys are same. Bathroom and fart jokes can be funny or not will vary from one to the other. Although grouching is considered funny among a vast majority still not all boys enjoy getting their clothes messy.
6. They can be kind:
Sweet and loving and considerate too. You will not see it coming while you are sad but one of your boys is sure to come up and wrap his arms around you and say are you okay. Not just hugs kisses too a lot of them when they are younger. A compassionate boy is the cutest creature of the planet.
7. You have an important responsibility towards the society:
Yes, you are raising a man. And the world needs more good men. Anger and violence is in plenty it takes a great woman to raise gentlemen.
Pregnancy in real life is nothing like a Hollywood painted picture. It is a totally out of the regular life mind-body experience that stretch over a 9 month period turning a woman’s whole life upside down. You may have the idea that you might crave pickles at weirdest time of the day or you might or might not get stretch marks. But there is a whole lot of stuff (mostly nasty) you will never know about (because they are nasty and no one likes talking about them) unless you yourself enter this era of being pregnant.
1. You might become a gold digger:
Or nose picker as we normally say. All of a sudden the body decides to produce more mucus than normal once you are pregnant and you’ ll begin finding more boogers. More boogers inevitably leads to nose picking and if you have a toddler forget telling him not to pick his nose or be prepared to get a lecture from the same toddler, real soon.
While websites may pat this one down to “a little increased discharge” in reality there might be a whole lot of it. Particularly in the groin region which will cause you to reopen that undie drawer untouched for quite some time now. You ll need to go shop fo new pairs of undies as well as you will see you dont fit into the old ones comfortably and the sweat will leave you running out these way before the laundry day
3. You will be possessed by Nesting
Time to time a wave or two will strike by where you will have an uncontrollable urge to clean or rearrange or rid the home of anything that can be unsafe for the baby to come. You read that already on many websites but what you dont know is it would feel like may be you are on Adderall. Nothing will matter to you once you start your bizzare marathon, not the time, not your kids, not even an injured toe. Craze will be over only when the task would be done even if it takes whole day. Next whole day you won’t be able to drag yourself out of the bed.
4. Prepare to be offended (more often):
You will hear alot more comments about your weight. This one gets offensive equally for the first time or third time mommy to be. Stupid ladies with their stupid expressions will tell you how they are surprised to know that you only 13 weeks instead of being in the last trimester because you look like a whale. Or you ARE in your third trimester or look like a whale but to them you’ll be too thin then. No matter what is going with you, you are diabetic or not or have BP issues or not and none of it is no ones concern but you’ll keep running into nose poking fools telling you stupid things and spiking your blood pressure.
Babies cry. That’s what they all do. Eat, poop, sleep and cry when any of the formerly mentioned are required. But that doesn’t mean mommy should start crying too. Remember what the air hostess tells us before plane takes off. Breathe yourself using the emergency oxygen masks and then help your kids. So calm down, doctors are yet to lose one from crying.
2. Use the pacifier:
This one is valuable. Pacifiers have a good reason to stay in the market. You can pat yourself on the back all you want for not trying to push a binkie on your little one because you know how they cause teeth problem and how hard is to get the kids off of them later. But the nightmare begins when all that seems to calm your baby is your nipple. No matter how bad of a condition you are in but the baby wont leave you alone for a whole hour because you are the binkie now.
3. Being Possessive:
I know the hormones may drive you crazy after first pregnancy and birthing and even postpartum plays a good role in turning you a bitch. But don’t repeat the same mistakes with second or third ones. The old adage stands true that it takes a whole village to raise a baby. So share your little bundle of joy and let others hold him/ her too, to leave you some space and time for a luxury like shower while others may bond with your newborn.
4. Don’t be so hard on yourself:
You are raising a human being no matter how little and that for the first time in your life. You will make mistakes no matter how hard you try. Your baby is his own person too and they will turn out to be fine so just relax and breath.
5. Trying to do it all by yourself:
Accept help. Your mom or your mother in law knows what its like to become a mother. So if they are offering to keep the baby for a night or two so you can recover accept the offer with thanks. There are plenty of sleepless nights waiting for you and the person offering help loves you and so your baby. You can try all you want to be a super mum but you will need sleep and yeah showers and meals too.
6. When o when:
Relax, the first teeth will show, your baby will roll over sit stand up walk n talk and do every kid stuff. Don’t rush, don’t panic, don’t compare. You are just exhausting yourself over pointless. You ll be amazed how marvelous things your baby will achieve in the years to come.
7. Seeking too much advice:
They call it a mother’s intuition for a good reason. So try your best and believe in yourself. Too many experts’s books and blogs still cant beat a fellow mum’s advice who has just been there done that.